I feel like long term I am able to balance these things. I am just starting my professional career but still play poker as a hobby/second-income. I find during any given shorter period of time I can find myself seriously out of whack. But having the perspective to see that things are out of whack allows me to make some changes and adjust. Eventually things slide back to the crazy place again but as long as I can evaluate occassionally and adjust I feel like things work out. If you do any sort of tracking or journaling for poker maybe add something about life balance into the things that you examine regularly. Might help?

my problem isnt balancing life with poker,
its balancing poker with life.
I struggle to get in hours at the table, because id rather be mountain biking, or doing a zillion other things. I dont really enjoy playing poker for the most part.
I sit around thinking what my roll would be like if i got in more hours at the same winrate.
I could take a vacation with all that $.

You sound very young, many juves find it hard not to obsess and overdo things they like. Not a crime, normal, unless you are 30 lol Most likely you will simply mellow out over time as you discover the rest of the world. GL

If you can't balance life and poker good luck balancing life and some random job that offers you zero flexibility

I am not making any judgements regarding the OP, but in my experience those who worry too much about balancing life with poker usually do so because they are losing players. I've yet to meet anyone that was crushing games who worried about whether or not they got enough hiking in this week; just like I never believe athletes and coaches who retire/resign so they can spend more time with the family.

the main reason, I created the post was because to understand, if winning players have times for themselves(balacing life!) I figured that they do not balance or the ones I know/seen... that is the reason I was asking, since I over played poker. I wanted to mention a pro poker player at my local casino a prop player who I have seen everyday at sametime at same seat and same table! Whenever I go he makes wins a decent amount! and always there 8 hours a day 5-6 times a week.. I took a break a year and saw him he was still playing, but not in a good shape, however there were other players who I would see didn't notice that much of a difference

So true and dead on IMO...