[QUOTE=SGT RJ;34817455]I'll bet you're adorable, too.
zomg aw thank you
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I can't really explain it, I've just always like guy clothes and guy activities a lot more than traditional girlie stuff.
Story of my life but reverse...
Not in all cases (I like candles and I enjoy doing counted cross stitch), but especially since people make a lot of snap judgements based on appearance, the fact that I usually have a relatively short hair cut and walk around in jeans or cargo shorts generally makes me appear at least somewhat butch. I've actually confused a few lesbians who have hit on me as a result.
Haha.. I so hear you RJ i know exactly how you feel (except opposite genders :P), it just is a little (a lot :P) more complicated for me. It can get so confusing sometimes for me. Yes I very much enjoy feminine activities, love fashion, shopping, dancing, pop culture, Cosmo, etc etc etc. I enjoy being girly and its a lot of fun and a big part of who I am. But at the same time I do enjoy being male. I love sports, some mornings il sit in my underwear being a dirty slob watching sports center like most men do. But then some mornings il wake up, make myself breakfast, make myself look cute and watch the golden girls while i check my facebook... It is so strange how I can be quite FEM to averagely masucline, without even thinking about it.. I do like how I can fit in with almost anyone, any gender, any sexuality as I am so deserve in so many ways
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But its just too confusing. I love being "genderqueer", I very much enjoy being able to be both masucline and feminein. But sometimes I am very confused about whether or not I would want to transition to a full time female. Sometimes I feel like just doing drag isn't enough, and people don't treat me as a normal woman.
I think that is the biggest part of why I am so insecure about being gender queer, the way others treat people like me. Society (even within the glbtq community to some degree) are so unaccepting to genderqueer/draqqueens/trans etc, especially when they are not 100% beautiful gorgeous passable woman/men. When a mtf drag queen is only semi passable and still sounds/looks like a man they are viewed as some gay freak. But if they pass completely its cool, obviously. So that is why trans folk like myself are SO anxious about being able to pass to a point of purging, depression, cutting, even suicide. If you think young straight girls have it tough with the images of the media, imagine a young trans girl. Young teen girls worry about being thin, cute with adorable figures (which is wrong of course). Young trans girls worry about all of that + being able to pass as female, perfect eyebrows, perfect shoulders, covered up adams apple.. the list is to long.
I think if society was more accepting of being genderqueer or just not the binary x/y gender I would be way more accepting of myself. I have never gone as a lady in public, and that is something i always would love to do. To walk out on the street as a beautiful woman would make me feel so warm and happy, but I am too insecure to do that. I feel I don't pass enough, I feel everyone is starring at me, I feel that I am a freak and out of place. Those thoughts are so wrong, and based of nothing but insecurities. As Shauna (amaazon) has told me, the monsters in your closet aren't really there, however insecurities like this are difficult to get past
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I just want to be able to be myself, both Breanne and Ryan. I am not an insecure person, im proud of who I am, and know who I am. I am not shy and love to express myself, however I do not have the courage to be as public and vocal about expressing my female identity. Maybe it will come in time, but for now its tough
Love you all gl with everything <3