Assuming the prof is out of the realm of dating possibility, then fantasizing about him while you're with someone is an option, but not really an optimal one in a LTR.

If you want to try to avoid thinking about him while being with someone else...just try to focus on the positive things you feel when you're with your current partner! It may be easier said than done, but sex to me seems much more intense when your in-sync with your partner. And if your current partner isn't as attractive as the "professor", you can close your eyes for awhile and try to focus on what feels good "elsewhere", but don't get the "professor" in your head(s)!

@ LivrA, Dude, I wish I could just let it roll, maybe I have no other choice. The problem is I have a guilty conscience on these types of things, justifiable or not. I just feel like I'm carrying excess baggage.

@ tringlomane LOL thanks heh. Yeah definitely not dating him (married with children). You're totally right though, its so much more satisfying when you're enjoying the here and now. Also, I think it's beyond physical attraction. Part of me is afraid I've developed some kind of late blooming authority figure fetish or something. For now, I think i'll take your advice and make a more conscious effort to enjoy who I'm with instead of instantly slipping off into lala land

Off to bed now, hopefully wont be dreaming about him. (hasnt happened yet oddly enough)

Are you christian?

Hey I have a question for any straight girls that might be here. Do you find the idea of dating a bisexual guy repulsive? There seems to be a pretty big double standard to me. I've ****ed around on dating sites before, listing my orientation as bisexual, and no girls would give me the time of day.

It's kinda bull**** imo. Like it's ok for girls to be bisexual but not guys. Bunch of ****ing bull**** imo.

I would date a bisexual guy.

But this isn't a dating advice thread.

And advice to Breanne: Whether you want to admit it or not, your conduct in other forums was wholly inappropriate, and you deserved that ban, and will continue to get banned if you continue acting the way you have been, to the point it's highly likely you'll reach BOS status (ban on sight).

You need to stop the following:

a) Naming your new accounts some version of Breanne
b) Constantly coming back and basically saying "hey it's me, come at me mods". Because they can and will, and any support you can get from this site will be blocked to you.
c) Posting in any insulting/trolling fashion in any forum

Banned posters are often allowed back if they keep a low profile and change their ways. So far, you've done neither of those things through at least three accounts I'm aware of. As it stands you are negative to the forums. If you want to stay, change that. If you don't, goodbye.

Yeah Agree with everything sgt, but il keep this 1 account for this thread (inb4ban).

Back on topic, dildos are awesome.

Well this may be a factual statement (personally I prefer the real thing,) I'm betting this isn't the kind of post that's going to get you back into favor with the mods.

I think dating advice should be allowed in here, ad sex advice, and w/e. Anything that is glbtQ appropriate.

Advice to the people who are just entering the dating scene: Always have safe sex. Once you are in a LTR with someone its not nessecarily needed, but until you enter that point in a relationship, play safe!

Dildos are ok, i'm more of a plug guy tho :P

I've never even tried anything, that wasn't the real thing.

Being completely honest, how do they compare to the real thing?

Are the even half as pleasurable?

Hey some of us don't get sex every night (or at all ). Dildos are a great way to spice it up by yourself, why not? I dunno if they compare, since im a virgin but damn they are great. I bought a "realistic ****" the other day, its meant more for women but i still enjoy it haha, great for practicing..stuff.

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Well just you wait girl. You will.

And you won't be a virgin forever.

You're going to have a lot of good times, and fun, and pleasure, and plenty of the real thing (not to imply anything negative towards you.)

You're young, all those bright times, and those great things I mentioned, are all in front of you.

So, just look ahead to the future, and not dwell too much on the present.

As long as you know yourself, and accept yourself, and stay confident and strong in that, your future is a bright one.

I think back to when I was your age, for all I knew I was just another regular old average joe hetro sexual kid. Wow! How much I've learned about myself different since then. Wow! how much has changed in 5 years.

You're already ahead of the curve coming to grips with this at 18. It's going to get better for you, much better. Not worse. I promise.

Yeah it is. I read somewhere a while back that some girls think that a bisexual guy is more likely to cheat on them (i know lolwut). And then again there is certainly that societal double standard towards bisexual men and women. I don't consider myself bisexual (while I do enjoy female company once in a while because lets face it, girls have their own set of wonderful perks) but I do empathize with you here.

I also agree we should expand the scope of this thread to dating issues, especially since there a lot of "newbies" (such as Roush) that could benefit from discussing their thoughts in a familiar and support place. As long as it remains GLBT+ themed and not especially explicit. They certainly won't be able to talk about this in 4L or OOT (where coincidentally much crazier things are discussed).

The thing that prevents women from dating bisexual men I believe is the strict double standard that there is no such thing as male bisexuality. If a male has a sexual experience with another man, they will be labeled as gay from the outset by general society, regardless of their previous dating habits or sexual experiences. Whereas, women doing a similar thing are often thought of as "experimenting" or "going through a phase".

Obviously it's absurd, but it's a clear message being reinforced that homosexuality may be becoming "more acceptable" by general society, but the guidelines of that homosexuality are still heavily governed by heterosexual norms and practices.

fwiw I don't believe you but whatever imo

Yes, because I have such a track record of lying about stuff like this on the site.

Thanks that did make me smile.

I agree dating advice should be itt as long as its glbt themed. Good luck roush with finding some gay friends/and or a relationship.

And to jack&mark, about your crush don't stress about it too much. Its perfectly natural having a hardcore crush on someone you know you will never get. Just think of him at night .

Random Breanne post of the day:
shaving legs (as a male) for the first time is not a fun experience!

No I don't have any idea about any of that.


It's just that you're a girl, and I don't think many girls would date bisexual guys, so merely probability says that you most likely wouldn't, and are therefor most likely lying.

You forgot to factor in that SGT RJ is actively posting in this thread in a positive manner. This alone makes her more likely to date a bisexual man than some random straight woman, imo.

SGT RJ

More straight chicks need to be like her, imo.

yes she's nice but I still hold my position, on grounds of personal resentment and projection

Maybe girls won't date you because you're a cynical bastard who accuses them of lying.

I think two guys together is hot. I'd have no problem if my boyfriend is bisexual (and love the idea of a MMF threesome) but sadly, I've never run into one where we actually dated and since I've been with my current boyfriend for going on five years and we're discussing marriage/kids, it seems unlikely to happen in the future.

I'll somehow survive, but there certainly are women who wouldn't have a problem with dating (or having a long term relationship with) a bisexual guy.

lol, sterio type much?

I don't really blame people for having that kind of view (bi men will cheat on me) because the thought will always be in your mind. Honestly id feel a lot more comfortable as a gay male dating a gay guy than bisexual, since I always will feel "he needs some pussy ". Of course if a partner is faithful there is nothing to worry about, but for me at least there will always be that worry of "what if i can't satisfy him enough, am I competing with a women" etc.. I may be a close-minded opinion (i've never been in a real relationship), but I think it is pretty logical. Im not saying I wouldn't date a bisexual partner, its just I think it would be more difficult for me.

The thing is guys just don't care because most of them are whores. Women(some gay guys)actually care about the relationship :P. Ofc that is stereotyping, but its true to some degree.

Being male sucks, sigh.

I really am

I believe you

I guess it depends on your point of view. As someone who is bi (for lack of a better term), I wouldn't care much if the person I was dating was bi as well.

There seems to be some kind of underlying assumption that bisexual people are more promiscuous that makes folks worry about dating someone bi. This is not the case; bi people are either faithful or cheat probably about the same amount as straight or gay people. It's just the idea that there are a wider field of potential competitors for a mate's affections that I think gets into some peoples heads, both male and female.

It is true that if you and/or your partner is bi that makes a three-way more likely if you're both up for it. Those situations can be very hot and fun, as long as firm boundaries and rules are agreed to beforehand to make sure that no one gets hurt or upset.

One of the things that I get a bit frustrated about is the lack of better understanding and consideration for bi and trans folks; sometimes it seems like we are the redheaded stepchildren of the queer community. As a friend of mine once put it; it's spelled GLBT, but it's pronounced "Gay and Lesbian." You don't have to look any further than a lot of the national organizations out there to see that.

GLAAD the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation
GLSEN Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network
PFLAG Parents Families & friends of Lesbians and Gays
etc.

The argument is always that "well, we would have to change everything to keep including more letters." But for those of us in the bi and trans communities, it's not just lack of inclusion in the name; those orgs never seem to care too much about our kind of queers. Trans folks routinely get told to sit in the back of the bus and bi people are usually left waiting at the train station.

I know for certain that not all gay and lesbian folks feel that way, but sometimes it feels like we're not sitting at the main table, especially when it comes to big organizations and politics.

What really sucks about that is the feeling that you're pretty much on your own, that there is a big segment of the GLBT alphabet soup that just doesn't have your back and the only people you can count on the ones in your patch.

It's a very lonely feeling, to be trans and know that you're a minority within a minority, maybe 0.05% of the population and it's clear that a whole lot of folks out there don't understand you and some of them just plain hate you. Knowing that transgender folks get murdered at something like 11 times the national average and have a suicide rate also about 10 times the average. Watching the media sensationalize, objectify and lie about your community almost every time and seeing no one call them on it.

And the weird thing about it is that I don't know just how "small" the bi segment is. I wish I had a quarter for every gay man or woman who told me that they had kids. Not from adoption or a sperm bank, but from the standard hetero tab A into slot B union they had. I suspect that there are a lot more Cynthia Nixons out there who are choosing to be in a gay or lesbian relationship than we ever hear about; it's like bisexuality is the big closet now because it's not politically correct to say that you are really attracted to all genders and are just choosing to date someone in a particular gender at the moment. OMG, if we can't argue that we're born this way how can we defend loving someone of the same gender to all the haters?

I don't know, maybe just say that loving someone is never wrong, but hating someone usually is? There was some guy about 2000 years ago with that message, I think.

I'll never forget one week a few years ago when I had three of my lesbian friends all say the same thing to me within two weeks of each other; "Don't tell anyone but I'm dating a guy!" I was like "um ok, but whats the big deal?" They each told me that they were worried about being judged by other women in the community. They were even reluctant to tell me even though everyone knew I was bi! I just thought how silly and sad that was; you're afraid to tell some of your friends that you're in a straight relationship, what the heck are is going on here. We've got to start being better than that.

Sorry to ramble on, just had a bunch of thoughts about this.

Shauna

They are fairly comparable as far as the pleasure goes, and they are wonderful practice for the real thing. Getting used to having things in there, and being able to have the controll your self is really nice.

It feels much different, and it obviously cant compare to the emotional aspects of sex, but good ones are def worth getting. Make sure you read up on what you purchase, get a kind that is safe to use and that cant get lost, and purchase good lube that goes with the product.


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