Having issues with your romantic partner? Want to complain about a bad date, or swoon about a good one? Would you like to solicit advice about a particular problem, or just get a virtual hug when things aren't going good with your sweetie?

Welcome to the official relationship commiseration thread!

The usual TWSS rules apply: this is not a thread to try to pick up women, or for TWSS readers to flood it with "help me hook up with this hottie" posts (OOT and 4L are down the hall to your left). This is people to bitch about the lows, celebrate the highs, and basically rant and rave about this crazy little thing called love.

Threads like this make me really wish I were an anonymous poster. Siiiigh.

Good thread idea, sgt

That's why god invented gimmick accounts

Also...

My girlfriend is amazing & I love her & she treats me amazingly & we're ridiculously happy together, but a certain TWSS mod doesn't hang out with us anymore, so I need commiseration. Thx in advance

Well, at least you've got a great g/f, right?

I've been with my boyfriend over four years now, we get along great and have ridiculous nicknames for each other, but when we fight (which isn't often) it's always about something completely inane and then it can take a while to sort out because he's a) quiet and withdrawn when he's mad and b) quiet and withdrawn when he thinks I'm mad.

Men.

Aw, I you guys! Sorry that I've been so busy-- we need to hang out again soon.

Correct

Try being less mad

How do you know I wasn't talking about Venice

I've told him many times that a) I don't stay mad for long and b) unlike him, I actually prefer to talk it out when I'm mad rather that sit and stew. However, he generally persists in acting as if I need the kind of space he likes when he's mad.

It's a minor thing, really, since we don't fight much, but this last time both of us thought the other was mad so neither said anything until I basically just broke down like the sissy girl I am.

But he wasn't mad, and neither was I any more, so it was quickly put to right.

And for the record, this one was totally his fault. He was a little peeved about running bad at poker that night and cursed me out for not wanting to argue about how he should have played a particular hand.

I miss you too.

Oh man, two online poker players in a serious relationship

Kudos if you make it work, but that's my nightmare situation!

Here's the greatest "making up" song of all time:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z4KQn...eature=related

When he plays this one for you ladies, you know he's really sorry. (Ha! Ha!)

Former DJ

i clicked on this stupidly, i feel like i got rick-rolled.

Don't denigrate the rickroll in this fashion

Also, this is why the youtube embed feature is a wonderful thing, so you always know what crap it is you might be clicking on.

Haha, we've been together over four years, I think it works fabulously most of the time.

And the only real problem is if we play at the same table. I already shared the story of him blowing up at me when I (correctly) called his all-in and stacked him. He claimed he was playing against the other villain in the hand and that I should have known that and folded.

It's usually not an issue, though, as I prefer tournaments and he prefers cash.

Just tell him that it is usually the weaker overall player that gets upset when their partner busts them. The better player accepts that their partner made the right play.

See, I prefer not to get the silent treatment for a week.

He'll acknowledge that I'm a better tourney player (grudgingly), but even though I think I've caught up and possibly surpassed him in cash skills, I doubt he'd ever admit it so I won't say it, just to keep the peace.

who the better player ACTUALLY is is besides the point.

Some even get married.

Wouldn't have it any other way!

+1 (you know who you are)

I got blamed this trip for "making" him play worse because I was trying to get clarification on when we were leaving the casino.

I've come to the tragic realization that my boyfriend is not a very good poker player.

Alright so something very awkward just happened at work. I'm fortunate enough to work with friends I've had for years in my department. One of them is X he's good looking, put together, we chat about basketball and video games all day. Needless to say we always have a great time. We know lots about each others lives so he's aware of how "adventurous" I can be when it comes to being in a relationship with someone. So today he starts a conversation on IM asking me if I was dating anyone new and if I would be interested in dating a guy he knew for a little while with a possible upgrade to a relationship once he was over his ex. I told him I might be open to it for the sake of finding out who he was talking about. He wouldn't disclose to me who he was talking about unless I gave some sort of a yes. In reality I'm only looking for ltr.


He pulls me from my desk and said let's take a walk. Once we get to the seclusion of the elevator he admits that he was the person he was referring to. I really wasn't expecting this so I'm sure the shock on my face made him feel a little weird. I explained he was so deep in the friend zone it wasn't going to happen in so many words. Regardless of how good he looks I never saw him that way and it would be really awkward for me to go through with this. How do I go about hiding this awkwardness? We hang out in groups all the time and I don't want him to stop hanging out with us due to this.

Cliffs: Longtime friend wants FWB relationship, I said no but now its awkward

He sounds like a dork, but why would that be awkward? 90%+ of offers to be FWB get shot down.. it's a numbers game for most dudes. If he's not a teenager he'll get over it.

Haha! I have a super similar situation with my work colleague.

For the most part I just repress the he wants to bang my brains out part & focus on being friends. If he ever makes any inappropriate comments I'm always really quick to tell him he's overstepped the boundary because I don't want him taking my non digust as a tell that I might be warming to the idea/lead him on.

Just pretend like its not awkward until its not basically! I'm not the most functional person when it comes to relationships though so take my advice with a grain of salt :P

I see, based on your responses its one of those let time pass situations.

when is it not?

I mean, I have bad days and sometimes take it out on him. I think the major difference is I usually recognize this very quickly and apologize. He seems to have a much harder time with the word "sorry" than I do.

Ah well, he's still my cuddle monkey.