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Originally Posted by Pokergfnyc
So do poker players get down like that? Use girls for money and live and tell them you love them and show them everyday?
I truly do not believe he is using me. I truly believe he does this as his passion & so that we can have nice things in our future... I dont want to sound brainless cause I am only telling you a bad part of our story. All couples go through up and downs...Im not here to rant on my bf. Like i said everything is great & He is with me all the time and treats me well. I believe he loves me and trying to do good for us. He is also a good hearted person who has a heart of gold. He tells me all the time when he wins he has all these nice things he wants to do for us. and he also makes me happy with the little things he does. I didnt come on here to ask if i should stay with him- I came on here to learn more of a poker lifestyle and how many people were going through the similar situation so I knew it was kinda normal or if I should support him more then getting upset...when he is facing a losing streak. I am an independent college educated women and hold a degree and a teacher as a profession so Im not some fluff girl with no brains. I like to learn the ins and outs of the poker lifestyle so I can make my own judgements and decisions and looking for some info from long standing career poker players and their gf's if possible bc I am new to this kind of lifestyle. Thank you for all your posts.
Hey,
I think if poker is truly the passion of you bf he should have a more professional approach to the game.
I would advise he doesn't spend his last few quid on weed.
It appears from his constant need to be lent money that he is at best a break even player at the moment.
I would advice him that next time he wants to spend 300£ on a live tournament+ hotels to consider the practicalities of being a live grinder. Spending 300£ a time for an mtt is nothing more than a "shot". This is not how a poker player makes a living. They make a living form many (relatively small) investments in a manner which minimises the risk of going broke.
Taking continual shots is a disaster waiting to happen. Also from a psychology point of view when a shot doesn't pay off it will have terrible emotional consequences.
He needs to learn about bankroll management so he can keep his venture afloat. But this will be futile if he is not a winning player.
I think he could benefit from investing some money in poker coaching if this is indeed his dream. I think getting coaching is the most likely way that he will ever be able to pay his way in your relationship. He needs to think of poker as a business. How can he improve his business? He must be proactive.
Getting a real job is an option of course but I do not want to sound like a hypocrite as it has been a while since I have had a real job.
I wish you both the best of luck and all happiness in the future.
Pete
Last edited by Solidthought; 08-16-2013 at 06:13 AM.
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