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Originally Posted by Lepoppet
Agreed...however, the inverse is also true (at least for me). I had this HUGE, GIANTIC crush on a local grinder. He is a truely stunning specimen. It took me months to work up the cajones to ask him out.
Then he opened his mouth...
Sheesh...it was like someone poured ice water on an erection. My attraction instantly went droopy. The thought of contaminating the gene pool with his DNA is not going to help in the evolutionary process of the species.
Now he's just another weirdo and I keep hearing Phil Helmuth in the back of my head saying "I can dodge bullets baby!"
HE was bull ****ting you..his pride messing up both of you.. thats sad .... anyway,
that type of attraction usually doesn't happen unless its mutual.
really it doesn't. I dont mean the "wow theres a hot guy / girl" kind of thing, I mean the knock down, drag out, eyes meet and "wham bam". That usually doesn't really happen unless both participants feel it.
whats sad is when normally willing participants deny it somehow. or are just too cool to open up. I mean that **** is so high school but you see even totally mature adults falling back into that same fearful or emotionally guarded behavior. ANd many times the so called mature adults are even worst about it.
whats also sad its when the two aren't really compatible at that moment. but let me tell you what the wham bam really doesn't go away unless we rationalize it away. and even then given the opportunity and the participants willingness it can and will re emerge.
Let me tell you a true story: I mean I was freaking Hot for this girl many years ago and I knew because of the wham bam feeling it was mutual. But she was into games and all a big bunch of other stuff. She was listening to what all her friends telling her what she "should" do and all that crap. So it fizzled and nothing ever did happen. then like 2 or 3 years later I was at my apartment pool and she was there having just moved in . this was in a city of like 3 million people. i mean out of the blue she was there. and it was like wham bam all over again. This time no friends no BS just that undeniable super magnetic attraction. that developed into a HOT relationship that lasted almost a year. why?, because we were both willing to let it. (and it only ended because of her drinking.) Now I know all the above stuff is true because during very intimate conversations she told me it was and she wasn't the type to lie about it in that situation.
so all IM telling you is that mutual attraction really isnt that easy to beat down. because it isnt. So if your Hot guy was willing to participate in kind as were you then that necessary ingredient lets say catalyst would do its work.
Just ask anyone who has been in what could be refered to as a "super" relationship. it take major changes and or disagreements to break that stuff up. I mean the biggest stumbling block to that type of thing is the participants willingness to let/make it happen. and basically compatibility is the wish list. thats the rationalization part of it. One person rationalized one thing and the other, something else. with out all those components the super relationships just cant develop. its just the way it is. another stumbling block is irrational expectations of the other person but thats another case altogether.
but as in the above case once both participants were just willing to chill about it all & if both were willing to let it, things could and would happen. if not C'est la vie, it wont.