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Originally Posted by FlyLikeABird
I have been called a multiple nasty things at the table, including the word you mentioned. I have also been threatened to be "taken outside" and have "my ass kicked" multiple times. If you are playing for fun, you shouldn't take the verbal abuse and should talk to the floor/security about it, because stuff like that is definitely hurtful and will kill the fun atmosphere of a table. If poker makes up a decent amount of your income, I would just let the verbal stuff slide, because usually the players who use these derogatory terms are some of the worst players in the room. What's the old expression? Its "easy to take a lot of abuse when the person is hosing you with money"?
At a public table I would tell the loudmouth to sit the "F" down and shut the "F" Up and I guarantee that he would. I am not a violent guy (anymore) but I still have the look.
Real tough guys don't need to tell others how tough they are, they just are. He is a jerk plain and simple. He is not a man, he is a fish and though they live in schools they learn nothing. Ignore him, you are better than he. I speak up because I owe it to someone I once knew.
When I was a kid, I was like all my friends (or so I thought) mildly homophobic, I didn't want to hurt anyone or call them names I just wasn't into it. I had a great friend though, He was something else. A guys guy and always there when you needed him. I lost track of him after high school but when I came home from college, I made an attempt to contact him. No computers or google back then, but finally after about a year I ran into his cousin. First question after the usual "how are you's?" was "how's Frank?" She looked at me and had tears in her eyes. "I remember how close you guys were. I guess he couldn't tell you... Tony, Frank died from AIDS. He was gay. He died alone.His father banished him."
It is more than 25 years later, and I will never forget that night or those words. The guilt I felt as I thought about all the times we told him about girls we liked (he had set me up with his cousin) and the things we did, and he could never share with us his life for fear we would have shunned him.
At my 10th reunion, about 3 months later, I ran into three of my other HS buddies. They too were gay! How could I be so asleep at the wheel? My friend Stephan laughed at me and told me, "Tony, you just never gave a ****. That is one of the reasons we loved you, we knew you would probably not be happy about it, but you would never let anyone hurt us." Then I remembered how many times in HS I got in people's faces for calling those guys F-gs. I think we would all be really surprised if we knew how many of us straight guys mind when people use those kind of words.
Sexuality, real honest sexuality, is something most men feel discomfort about. It requires them to confront issues moral, religious, ethical and romantic. We would rather talk tough and tell each other how good we are in bed and who we've "done" who we'd "Do" and how we'd "Do her". We want to fit in and we don't want to deal with feelings. With age, most of us mature and realize our own sexuality isn't injured or determined by the sexuality of someone else, nor does his sexuality make him any more or less a person of honor.
Poker players of a certain age, are ******ed socially from what I have observed. They have yet to realize there is a life outside of the casino or computer. You will find that saying little is as helpful as saying a lot. If confronted with violence, you have to stay safe. If confronted by a drunkard blowhard fish who just blew his roll, well let him rant while you order a beer for yourself with his money. Winning is the best revenge.
And if you see an aging 350 lbs former golden glove heavyweight telling some a**h*** to sit the F down and shut the F up, say a prayer for Frankie, and come over and say hi.
Last edited by ACShark425; 08-13-2011 at 08:39 PM.