Originally Posted by Sirrybob
I think it was always like this but is happening more often as I play differently and bluff/bluffcatch more than I used to.
Part of what makes me feel bad is the feeling that I made a mistake, and part of it is the feeling that I got owned by someone. (Just happened so I'm writing it 5 minutes after, those are my best guesses).
Also after it happens once (bad bluff or bluffcatch) it seems I am more likely to do it again shortly thereafter (in a much worse spot usually, the original might've been fine but the next few are usually just bad)
This is a good start, I'll give you some feedback and some direction in the book for where to look, and feel free to follow-up again if you have questions, or want more feedback.
You've identified two important parts of the issue: Mistakes and confidence. Feeling bad about mistakes is very common, but whenever that feeling reaches pain, or is severe, it means you have some flaws in your approach to learning and performance. These flaws need to be corrected, and if corrected, can actually help you to become more efficient at learning. There's a whole section within the book on Mistake Tilt, which covers the most common ways players hate mistakes. Plus, Chapter two describes 3 theories that incorporate an efficient method of learning. Combined it'll give you a clearer method to learn from these spots, rather than getting caught in negativity.
From a confidence side of things, getting owned means something to you. It's important to find out what it means, what it says about your game, and whether you think those things are permanent? It's also important that you shut off your logic when answering these questions because the logic you have isn't enough to solve this problem. You must first understand why your emotions are reacting this way. It was great that you took notes after it happened, now I would do the same thing and ask yourself these questions and see what you come up with. Chapter 8 is devoted entire to confidence, and you may find some help in the Revenge Tilt and Entitlement Tilt sections as well. With those - keep in mind I'm not suggesting you have those types of tilt, just that parts of what I talk about there are applicable to you.
Lastly, often the reason mistakes like this happen more after it happens once, is that player's commonly get into the "**** its." Where because it happened once, it becomes almost "ok" that it happens again. Not logically of course, but in the moment, it's like, what's one more while also giving yourself the chance to make up for it. Find the reasons why you shouldn't just say **** it, and stick to playing as well as you can, and you'll be in more control in these spots.
Does this help so far?