What can you add without changing the meaning and context? (Chick-Fil-A)
Since atheists tend to take cues from nature, isn't the idea of marriage totally a religious institution?
I mean, do monkeys stay monogamous? Hmm, perhaps monogamy doesn't matter after further thought. (multiple wives in bible)
So...I guess it just comes down to contracts? Like getting insurance companies to cover your partner?
(sorry, I thought there was a lull. don't want to tard this up too much)
I mean, do monkeys stay monogamous? Hmm, perhaps monogamy doesn't matter after further thought. (multiple wives in bible)
So...I guess it just comes down to contracts? Like getting insurance companies to cover your partner?
(sorry, I thought there was a lull. don't want to tard this up too much)
Since atheists tend to take cues from nature, isn't the idea of marriage totally a religious institution?
I mean, do monkeys stay monogamous? Hmm, perhaps monogamy doesn't matter after further thought. (multiple wives in bible)
So...I guess it just comes down to contracts? Like getting insurance companies to cover your partner?
(sorry, I thought there was a lull. don't want to tard this up too much)
I mean, do monkeys stay monogamous? Hmm, perhaps monogamy doesn't matter after further thought. (multiple wives in bible)
So...I guess it just comes down to contracts? Like getting insurance companies to cover your partner?
(sorry, I thought there was a lull. don't want to tard this up too much)
Also-
from wikipedia: just interesting....
The amount of social monogamy in animals varies across taxa, with over 90% of birds engaging in social monogamy while only 3% of mammals were known to do the same.
I never said that you did. My point is that you're very much caught up in your rhetoric. After all, it took you how many posts before you were even finally able to admit that you were making essentially an emotional plea? And how many posts did you go denying that your view of marriage was not supportable by history?
Given these things and the rest of the aggressive rhetorical framework you've developed, is it really surprising (in a public forum, blah blah blah) that you got accused of piegeon-holing?
Given these things and the rest of the aggressive rhetorical framework you've developed, is it really surprising (in a public forum, blah blah blah) that you got accused of piegeon-holing?
Further, just because there is an emotional reaction to something doesn't mean it should be a pejorative in any sense. Emotionalism and rationalism is a false dichotomy. As you have seen, I can argue against the status quo quite fine on the grounds of a utilitarian assessment of the harm caused devoid of any shred of emotional attachment. But most people form their moral beliefs about the world based not on logical deductions from moral precepts - and I question the ability to actually even do this successfully and consistently - but based on emotional views of something. Casting gay marriage in terms that people have a positive emotional reaction to is, I think, going to be among the most important tactics in the fight to end the discrimination and harm that you are enabling. Of course, this isn't working on you, but by and large I suspect it will be successful.
As for history, I couldn't care less if my person view of marriage as I think of it with my wife is or is not supported by history. I am surely aware that discrimination is widespread in history I am not trying to deny that reality. I maintain that elements of love and commitment ARE widely considered to be parts of marriage by both religious people and else wise. But outside of that, it doesn't have any implications on anything else. Heck, religious people could make zero reference ever to love and commitment and I would still think it was entirely appropriate to end the discrimination and harm.
The point for many many years has been precisely about, as you called it, contracts. There are legal rights and privilidges that people receive by being married. Things like hospital visitation rights, inheritance rights, rights to children, insurance issues, etc.
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from wikipedia: just interesting....
Also-
from wikipedia: just interesting....
Uhm...inheritance rights - largely dependent on the parents of gay persons will? (since we're not going by mandated torah law) Like the parents can acknowledge that relationship if they want to or not (even sonship and str8 edge can be cut out, and the unrelated put in), unlike bible where inheritance is automatic and non negotiable.
kids - non applicable (sure, hairy issue of adoption)
hospital visitation - hmm, just a few more hours?
See guys, nothing to gain here.
Ah, what they really want is social acceptance, and this will fully legitimize it in their view.
Well....to be fair,
You've gained the automatic inheritance if the the parents are lazy and a few hours in the hospital.
You've gained the automatic inheritance if the the parents are lazy and a few hours in the hospital.
Oh, but then your going to take your gay spouses parents to court for "bigotry", if they cut you out of the will. Hmm, clever.
This seems absurd to me, but how would gay people defend against this accusation:
A man who refuses to marry women, and only wants to marry men; is bigoted.
This seems absurd to me, but how would gay people defend against this accusation:
A man who refuses to marry women, and only wants to marry men; is bigoted.
I think its a weird definition of religious freedom to say that only religious people can use the word 'marriage.'
By the way... should all atheists be forbidden from getting married since they're not religious? What if one religion wants the word "marriage" and their religous freedom requires them to deny Jews from using getting 'married'?
By the way... should all atheists be forbidden from getting married since they're not religious? What if one religion wants the word "marriage" and their religous freedom requires them to deny Jews from using getting 'married'?
Under my proposal, "marriage" refers to a purely social contract. Atheists can certainly be "married" by any organization (religious or secular) that is willing to marry them. But what the separation of naming accomplishes is that it allows for religious institutions to take the meaning of the agreement to be whatever they want it to be without creating confusion with the legal terminology or without feeling imposed upon by the government. Specifically, it makes the concept of "marriage" as something disjoint from anything that may be legally binding, which is where the interplay of religious freedoms and government may come into play.
Imagine a clean slate of the word marriage in both government and society. Government creates a two-person legal document that endows both parties with certain rights. That's the civil union. Now within society, different groups can hold whatever ceremonies they want with the full knowledge that their ceremony has no particular legal bearing, basically as Bar Mitzvahs, baptisms, and Temple marriages are practiced today.
What's going on now is kind of like if middle school graduations were called Bar Mitzvahs. Yes, Jewish synagogues could have *their* Bar Mitazvahs, and the government could have its Bar Mitzvahs, but it's really just asking for confusion and trouble.
Would gay couples be opposed to having to pay more for their medical insurance if there were stats indicating a higher rate of disease? (similar to car insurance with men and woman)
Uhm...inheritance rights - largely dependent on the parents of gay persons will? (since we're not going by mandated torah law) Like the parents can acknowledge that relationship if they want to or not (even sonship and str8 edge can be cut out, and the unrelated put in), unlike bible where inheritance is automatic and non negotiable.
kids - non applicable (sure, hairy issue of adoption)
hospital visitation - hmm, just a few more hours?
See guys, nothing to gain here.
Ah, what they really want is social acceptance, and this will fully legitimize it in their view.
Uhm...inheritance rights - largely dependent on the parents of gay persons will? (since we're not going by mandated torah law) Like the parents can acknowledge that relationship if they want to or not (even sonship and str8 edge can be cut out, and the unrelated put in), unlike bible where inheritance is automatic and non negotiable.
kids - non applicable (sure, hairy issue of adoption)
hospital visitation - hmm, just a few more hours?
See guys, nothing to gain here.
Ah, what they really want is social acceptance, and this will fully legitimize it in their view.
- Insurance: In most cases, partners would be trying to gain access to group health policies issued through the spouses' employer. Most of these policies do not restrict access to the policies or charge differential rates on the basis of individual risk, they generally charge everyone the same rate because the large pool of insured individuals aggregates the risk enough that the insurer doesn't need to assess each person individually. So, if they aren't going to charge differential rates based on age or weight, or a bunch of other factors, they shouldn't do it based on orientation.
- Inheritance. We're not talking about the ability to inherit money from parents, we're referring to the ability of one spouse to pass assets to the other. For example, is a man dies and leaves 10 million to his wife, she pays nothing. But, under current federal law, if he leaves it to a "husband," the surviving partner has to pay millions of dollars in estate taxes. This can be especially messy if much of the wealth is trapped in non liquid assets like a business or real estate, because some of those assets might have to be sold in order to raise the money to pay the taxes.
- Kids are tremendously relevant, both in adoptions, and in situations where one mother gave birth to the child... In the absence of legal recognition, there are documented cases where the other partner was not granted custody over the child when the biological parent died, where the non biological parent has had trouble taking the child on an airplane because they could not document that they had a legal relationship with the child, etc.
- You brush off hospital visitation, but just imagine that someone you loved, that you had pledged your life to the same way that a married straight couple had, was laying in a hospital bed, or undergoing surgery, and the doctors and nurses wouldn't tell you anything because you aren't "family."
And sure, I also think that seeing gay folks getting married and realizing that the world didn't end will make people more accepting of homosexuality, but that is far from the primary reason why I support same sex marriage...
*edited because it was the opposite word of what I meant.
As for history, I couldn't care less if my person view of marriage as I think of it with my wife is or is not supported by history.
As it happens, the relevant factors in marriage are love for each other and a willingness to dedicate to oneself, something that is entirely separate from considerations of skin colour or sexual orientation.
As you have seen, I can argue against the status quo quite fine on the grounds of a utilitarian assessment of the harm caused devoid of any shred of emotional attachment.
Oh, but then your going to take your gay spouses parents to court for "bigotry", if they cut you out of the will. Hmm, clever.
This seems absurd to me, but how would gay people defend against this accusation:
A man who refuses to marry women, and only wants to marry men; is bigoted.
This seems absurd to me, but how would gay people defend against this accusation:
A man who refuses to marry women, and only wants to marry men; is bigoted.
As far as the bigotry charge, not wanting to marry a particular person does not mean that I view them as a less deserving of the same civil rights as I am, or as an inferior being. If that were the case, you could say that everyone who is married is "bigoted" against every person that they did not marry, and if you want to go that far, then you've stretched the word bigot so far that it has now lost any meaning.
Obviously someone writing a will can include or exclude anyone they want for any reason, so no suits against parents imo...
As far as the bigotry charge, not wanting to marry a particular person does not mean that I view them as a less deserving of the same civil rights as I am, or as an inferior being. If that were the case, you could say that everyone who is married is "bigoted" against every person that they did not marry, and if you want to go that far, then you've stretched the word bigot so far that it has now lost any meaning.
As far as the bigotry charge, not wanting to marry a particular person does not mean that I view them as a less deserving of the same civil rights as I am, or as an inferior being. If that were the case, you could say that everyone who is married is "bigoted" against every person that they did not marry, and if you want to go that far, then you've stretched the word bigot so far that it has now lost any meaning.
I appreciate your posts, but I see you're going to make me have to work, so I'm out. I mean, I really can't argue, the info you posted seems close to a reasonable play out under current law in general, but I think the whole political system is fraudulent and house of cards waiting to collapse.
I mean...I have no options (nor do I want them), Torah is legit, all else is a fraud (Deut. 4:2)
The first paragraph doesn't answer my question. I asked if religious freedom is being violated by someone other than them taking a different definition. Saying "there is no reason to coopt it" does not answer this religious freedom question. For instance, you seem to agree that religious freedom is not violated if other people do a mormon religious ceremony different than your own, so why is religious freedom violated if the government makes a legal definition?
However, we can still ask the question despite no special constitution protections. If you are arguing that their religious freedom to think as they do is being violated, why is my intellectual freedom to think as I do not equally not being violated?
I have no clue what you're really saying. This seems to me that you're once again making up arbitrary challenges and standards to be met.
Am I misinterpreting here, or do you really not think this is bad?
You are putting a higher priority on being perceived as good by the very-religious community than you are on allowing equality for gays (since you would vote no to gay marriage in order to move closer to getting the government out of marriage altogether).
Am I misinterpreting here, or do you really not think this is bad?
Am I misinterpreting here, or do you really not think this is bad?
The perception by the religious community is a huge stumbling block and is a potential source of additional legal problems for advancing the end goal. Therefore, in order to work around the primary stumbling block, let's just not make it about marriage at all*. I think it will accomplish both ends in a way that doesn't simply try to barrel through a significant portion of the population.
One of the most visceral reactions that you can get from someone is when that person believes something of value is being taken from them. Pushing "gay marriage" through by basically trying to overpower people doesn't seem to me to be the most efficient solution. Sidestep the problem, and then things will go much more smoothly. (Also, actual homophobia -- which I admit is out there -- will be more readily exposed because it can't hide behind a curtain of religious freedoms.)
The idea here is similar to the idea that wars tend to be highly inefficient ways of accomplishing diplomacy. Not that this stops us from engaging in wars, but in many instances we realize partway through that war wasn't the best option, but we get kind of stuck in it.
* Edit: The "right to marry" is something that gets thrown around, and I think that's a large tactical error because the whole problem is bound up in the word "marriage." So simply repeating that you have this "right" doesn't do anything. Yes, gays have a right to enter into a legal contract with a member of the opposite sex, so their "right" hasn't actually been taken from them. Oh, you have the right marry *ANYONE* you want? Well, why not any*THING*? And on and on... Get the word marriage out of the equation, and these types of objections go away.
People have a right to see people they care about in the hospital, and the right to have their earnings distributed as they wish upon their death. Those rights are much easier to talk about and convince people of than the right to marriage.
I took no comment as tacit *rejection:
*edited because it was the opposite word of what I meant.
This was my position back in post #50-something. And you never really addressed it, and you kept on going on in the same manner for dozens of posts. It seemed you wanted to pretend like you were making an argument when you were making an emotional plea.
*edited because it was the opposite word of what I meant.
This was my position back in post #50-something. And you never really addressed it, and you kept on going on in the same manner for dozens of posts. It seemed you wanted to pretend like you were making an argument when you were making an emotional plea.
I say "harmful discrimination based on sexual orientation is bad" is a "first principle" in the following sense. Any time someone says something is bad, it is possible to go into an endless spiral of intellectual masterbation over whether this claim is justified from some deeper moral precept in a deontological world and whether these deeper moral precepts are consistent with every other moral view the person has. I don't care. I don't want to go into that, whether it is something totally egregious like slavery or genocide or something less egregious like preventing people who love each other to marry.
Now if someone genuinely comes up as says "i don't think slavery is bad" or the like, then sure I suppose we have to get into it further. But you AGREED that the status quo is bad right from the get go and AGREED that it needed to be changed and proposed a completely egalitarian solution. So what value was there going down this rabbit hole? I accept it as a first principle for the conversation.
I didn't give it (since we agreed it was harmful) but no, I think it is pretty standard concepts of harm and I don't think emotion plays into it at all. For instance, one can talk about the harm from the loss of inheritance and custody rights which is quite measurable harm. Some things like loss of hospital visitation rights and the like yes I suppose it is emotional in the sense that I can't give an objective measure of the harm caused by denying this, but it is quite real and I doubt you disagree.
You're painting a picture of religious folk as borderline ******ed, unable to tell the difference between a secular civil marriage and a religious ceremony. To be fair, that does seem to be what the problem is, but your solution is "religion gets the word marriage" instead of perhaps some very basic education demonstrating the difference between what the state is being asked to update and what religious groups are NOT being asked to change.
And now I'm struggling even more than before to see the infringement on religious rights that you initially brought up. It seems the only problem is that you think it would be confusing to religious people? This doesn't seem like a real argument.
* Edit: The "right to marry" is something that gets thrown around, and I think that's a large tactical error because the whole problem is bound up in the word "marriage." So simply repeating that you have this "right" doesn't do anything. Yes, gays have a right to enter into a legal contract with a member of the opposite sex, so their "right" hasn't actually been taken from them. Oh, you have the right marry *ANYONE* you want? Well, why not any*THING*? And on and on... Get the word marriage out of the equation, and these types of objections go away.
Second, are you saying that simply by changing the name you are really changing the argument? If there was no marriage, then we would be talking about gays right to have a civil union. It's no different just by changing the name.
I think Aaron's concerned that this might be the event that wakes the sleeping lion. His wordplay trick seems pretty smart imo.
Like right now, christians (or white people) have no idea what legal system is valid. But they do know they don't like gays....
Like right now, christians (or white people) have no idea what legal system is valid. But they do know they don't like gays....
Whatever Aaron personally thinks, the word marriage is not what the rest of the "pro-traditional marriage" Americans thinks is the problem: check out all the states in dark red where Constitution bans same-sex marriage and some or all forms of same-sex unions.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sa...age_in_USA.svg
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sa...age_in_USA.svg
(I don't know if it's Ok to hotlink to wikipedia images)
Whatever Aaron personally thinks, the word marriage is not what the rest of the "pro-traditional marriage" Americans thinks is the problem: check out all the states in dark red where Constitution bans same-sex marriage and some or all forms of same-sex unions.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sa...age_in_USA.svg
(I don't know if it's Ok to hotlink to wikipedia images)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sa...age_in_USA.svg
(I don't know if it's Ok to hotlink to wikipedia images)
I think your characterization is slightly askew. I did some spot checking, and I'm not sure that the words mean what you think they mean.
Idaho:
All marriages contracted without this state, which would be valid by the laws of the state or country in which the same were contracted, are valid in this state, unless they violate the public policy of this state. Marriages that violate the public policy of this state include, but are not limited to, same-sex marriages, and marriages entered into under the laws of another state or country with the intent to evade the prohibitions of the marriage laws of this state.
Chapter 6. Suit for dissolution of marriage - Section 6.204. Recognition of same-sex marriage of union.
(a) In this section, "civil union" means any relationship status other than marriage that:
(1) is intended as an alternative to marriage or applies primarily to cohabitating persons; and
(2) grants to the parties of the relationship legal protections, benefits, or responsibilities granted to the spouses of a marriage.
(b) A marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union is contrary to the public policy of this state and is void in this state.
(c) The state or an agency or political subdivision of the state may not give effect to a:
(1) public act, record, or judicial proceeding that creates, recognizes, or validates a marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union in this state or in any other jurisdiction; or
(2) right or claim to any legal protection, benefit, or responsibility asserted as a result of a marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union in this state or in any other jurisdiction.
(a) In this section, "civil union" means any relationship status other than marriage that:
(1) is intended as an alternative to marriage or applies primarily to cohabitating persons; and
(2) grants to the parties of the relationship legal protections, benefits, or responsibilities granted to the spouses of a marriage.
(b) A marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union is contrary to the public policy of this state and is void in this state.
(c) The state or an agency or political subdivision of the state may not give effect to a:
(1) public act, record, or judicial proceeding that creates, recognizes, or validates a marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union in this state or in any other jurisdiction; or
(2) right or claim to any legal protection, benefit, or responsibility asserted as a result of a marriage between persons of the same sex or a civil union in this state or in any other jurisdiction.
Trying to characterize these laws as solely a "state's rights" issue is pretty disingenuous, IMO.
As you state, these laws were specifically passed as a reaction to same sex marriages occurring in other states. These states had not seen fit to pass these laws to, for example not recognize first cousin marriages carried out in a state that recognized them, or a state that had a younger age of consent, or a state that imposed a shorter waiting period for getting married than they did. This wasn't about Texas asserting its right to define all marriages within Texas and therefore refusing to recognize all marriages from other states that did not conform to Texas' definition. It was only about same sex marriages.
Second, remember that these state laws are only possible because Congress passed DOMA, a law that, in a pretty unprecidented way, specifically allowed one state to disregard the public acts of another state. So, to the extent that this specific "state right" exists, it only exists because the Federal government decided to give the states a loophole that allowed them to avoid having to recognize same sex marriages (something, that, in the absence of DOMA, they almost certainly would have had to do because of the "full faith and credit" clause of the Constitution.
As you state, these laws were specifically passed as a reaction to same sex marriages occurring in other states. These states had not seen fit to pass these laws to, for example not recognize first cousin marriages carried out in a state that recognized them, or a state that had a younger age of consent, or a state that imposed a shorter waiting period for getting married than they did. This wasn't about Texas asserting its right to define all marriages within Texas and therefore refusing to recognize all marriages from other states that did not conform to Texas' definition. It was only about same sex marriages.
Second, remember that these state laws are only possible because Congress passed DOMA, a law that, in a pretty unprecidented way, specifically allowed one state to disregard the public acts of another state. So, to the extent that this specific "state right" exists, it only exists because the Federal government decided to give the states a loophole that allowed them to avoid having to recognize same sex marriages (something, that, in the absence of DOMA, they almost certainly would have had to do because of the "full faith and credit" clause of the Constitution.
These laws are basically reactionary to the potential of having to recognize out-of-state civil unions. After Massachusetts legalized gay marriage, there was an intentional effort of some to get married in Massachusetts and then to test the legal waters in their home states. It's more of a state's rights issue.
The fact that some recent changes to these states family laws were declared in a reactionary fashion is hardly something to tout proudly. I am not remotely qualified to be able to comment on this in any detail (I presume DOMA related?), but the Texas LGBT rights Wiki page mentioned "The Constitutionality of refusing to recognize a lawful marriage performed in another State remains in dispute." I can only offer a personal opinion, which is along the lines of "it's BS"
Trying to characterize these laws as solely a "state's rights" issue is pretty disingenuous, IMO.
As you state, these laws were specifically passed as a reaction to same sex marriages occurring in other states. These states had not seen fit to pass these laws to, for example not recognize first cousin marriages carried out in a state that recognized them, or a state that had a younger age of consent, or a state that imposed a shorter waiting period for getting married than they did. This wasn't about Texas asserting its right to define all marriages within Texas and therefore refusing to recognize all marriages from other states that did not conform to Texas' definition. It was only about same sex marriages.
As you state, these laws were specifically passed as a reaction to same sex marriages occurring in other states. These states had not seen fit to pass these laws to, for example not recognize first cousin marriages carried out in a state that recognized them, or a state that had a younger age of consent, or a state that imposed a shorter waiting period for getting married than they did. This wasn't about Texas asserting its right to define all marriages within Texas and therefore refusing to recognize all marriages from other states that did not conform to Texas' definition. It was only about same sex marriages.
Second, remember that these state laws are only possible because Congress passed DOMA, a law that, in a pretty unprecidented way, specifically allowed one state to disregard the public acts of another state. So, to the extent that this specific "state right" exists, it only exists because the Federal government decided to give the states a loophole that allowed them to avoid having to recognize same sex marriages (something, that, in the absence of DOMA, they almost certainly would have had to do because of the "full faith and credit" clause of the Constitution.
A separate question on the same survey found that 59% of respondents supported legal recognition of same-sex couples, with 24% supporting same-sex marriage, 35% supporting civil unions, 40% opposing all legal recognition, and 1% not sure.
But because of Massachusetts*, there was a huge push back in fear of being forced to do something that they didn't want to do.
* And DOMA for opening the door, but the timeline points to Massachusetts:
DOMA = 1996
Massachusetts = 2003
Texas = 2005
So it *IS* different because the types of arguments you will face are different (and fewer, and forces a much more clearly defined stand on the other side with regards to homosexuality).
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