Obama to sign LGBT nondiscrimination executive order
No I don't think the arguments surrounding the institution of marriage hold any weight, if we need to discriminate on grounds of sexual orientation to protect an institution then the institution isn't worth protecting. I also don't accept that someones marriage means something different when the right to be married is extended to homosexual couples.
No I don't think the arguments surrounding the institution of marriage hold any weight, if we need to discriminate on grounds of sexual orientation to protect an institution then the institution isn't worth protecting. I also don't accept that someones marriage means something different when the right to be married is extended to homosexual couples.
please try to be more bigoted in future when it is convenient to my personal interest :P
What is the point of the intenets when people agree
Kermit,
You gave me a lot to address here. For starters, Christianity will be affected because the left directly oppose them. Most of those in favour of gay marriage directly oppose Christianity because they stand for different and often opposite things.
As for the change, it's inevitable. Again, you don't have to believe it's bad, that is subjective, it could be considered good, but it is change and not everyone will appreciate it. I don't want to be offensive, it's not my aim here. A dismantling and rebuilding of the common nuclear family to include same-sex couples will change the culture we live in, even if it's simply having children shown that homosexuality should be celebrated, it's a change. Even if it's simply a more sexually-open culture, it's a change. A culture where gay-marriage is accepted and considered the norm will naturally be different to a culture where homosexuality is not even discussed.
I'm not really trying to argue against homosexuality, I'm only offering an objection that is not focused on, or skewed to look like simple bigotry.
You gave me a lot to address here. For starters, Christianity will be affected because the left directly oppose them. Most of those in favour of gay marriage directly oppose Christianity because they stand for different and often opposite things.
As for the change, it's inevitable. Again, you don't have to believe it's bad, that is subjective, it could be considered good, but it is change and not everyone will appreciate it. I don't want to be offensive, it's not my aim here. A dismantling and rebuilding of the common nuclear family to include same-sex couples will change the culture we live in, even if it's simply having children shown that homosexuality should be celebrated, it's a change. Even if it's simply a more sexually-open culture, it's a change. A culture where gay-marriage is accepted and considered the norm will naturally be different to a culture where homosexuality is not even discussed.
I'm not really trying to argue against homosexuality, I'm only offering an objection that is not focused on, or skewed to look like simple bigotry.
Just so I understand it, your objection is "things will change"? I dont get it. First why is that an objection? Its more of an observation. An objection is saying that you object to something, you dont like it. Are you saying that you dont like change in general? Or just this change? If its this change specifically, then you need to be more specific about what you dont like about it. It seems like you are trying to avoid appearing bigoted by focusing on "change" rather than the real reasons behind why you think this change is bad.
edit: Im not saying you ARE bigoted, or even your reasons for disliking the change are bigoted, just that maybe you feel that you cant express the real reasons for fear of being called bigoted?
I'd like to step back for a moment and repeat what I said:
I believe this statement stands for itself. When people ask for examples of this, it's not because they do not believe there are reasons, it's because they want to dispute the reasons point-for-point as they are presented. I really don't want to argue whether it's right or wrong, only that there are reasons other than hatred for people to disapprove of gay-marriage. Frankly, it seems strange to me that this is even a debate. I’m not speaking about the gay-marriage debate, but whether or not there are reasons why people do not support it.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I can present some objections if you like, but I’m not sure what good that will do. People will simply say “boo inequality” and we’re back to square one, and I never attempted to say that gay-marriage should be banned, or that I believe it should be banned, only that people have other reasons beyond "boo gay people". If you can't concede that, I'm not sure this is a worth while conversation.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I can present some objections if you like, but I’m not sure what good that will do. People will simply say “boo inequality” and we’re back to square one, and I never attempted to say that gay-marriage should be banned, or that I believe it should be banned, only that people have other reasons beyond "boo gay people". If you can't concede that, I'm not sure this is a worth while conversation.
I'd like to step back for a moment and repeat what I said:
I believe this statement stands for itself. When people ask for examples of this, it's not because they do not believe there are reasons, it's because they want to dispute the reasons point-for-point as they are presented. I really don't want to argue whether it's right or wrong, only that there are reasons other than hatred for people to disapprove of gay-marriage. Frankly, it seems strange to me that this is even a debate. I’m not speaking about the gay-marriage debate, but whether or not there are reasons why people do not support it.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I believe this statement stands for itself. When people ask for examples of this, it's not because they do not believe there are reasons, it's because they want to dispute the reasons point-for-point as they are presented. I really don't want to argue whether it's right or wrong, only that there are reasons other than hatred for people to disapprove of gay-marriage. Frankly, it seems strange to me that this is even a debate. I’m not speaking about the gay-marriage debate, but whether or not there are reasons why people do not support it.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I explicitly stated that I didnt think that you were bigoted, or that necessarily your reasons for opposing change were bigoted.
Of course there are reasons other than "boo gays" for opposing it. Do these reasons stand up? Are they just cover for "boo gay" bigotry?
( for example, I would consider "the bible says homosexuality is immoral" as a reason for opposing gay marriage)
Are you saying that you think the change will be bad? If so, why cant you outline why you think it will be bad?
I can present some objections if you like, but I’m not sure what good that will do. People will simply say “boo inequality” and we’re back to square one, and I never attempted to say that gay-marriage should be banned, or that I believe it should be banned, only that people have other reasons beyond "boo gay people". If you can't concede that, I'm not sure this is a worth while conversation.
I'd like to step back for a moment and repeat what I said:
I believe this statement stands for itself. When people ask for examples of this, it's not because they do not believe there are reasons, it's because they want to dispute the reasons point-for-point as they are presented. I really don't want to argue whether it's right or wrong, only that there are reasons other than hatred for people to disapprove of gay-marriage. Frankly, it seems strange to me that this is even a debate. I’m not speaking about the gay-marriage debate, but whether or not there are reasons why people do not support it.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I can present some objections if you like, but I’m not sure what good that will do. People will simply say “boo inequality” and we’re back to square one, and I never attempted to say that gay-marriage should be banned, or that I believe it should be banned, only that people have other reasons beyond "boo gay people". If you can't concede that, I'm not sure this is a worth while conversation.
I believe this statement stands for itself. When people ask for examples of this, it's not because they do not believe there are reasons, it's because they want to dispute the reasons point-for-point as they are presented. I really don't want to argue whether it's right or wrong, only that there are reasons other than hatred for people to disapprove of gay-marriage. Frankly, it seems strange to me that this is even a debate. I’m not speaking about the gay-marriage debate, but whether or not there are reasons why people do not support it.
If you believe that there are no objections other than hatred, it says to me that you have not bothered to do much research on the subject, or you simply disagree with the objections, in either case, me presenting an argument is futile. It was never my aim to defend the position, just to say that there is a position, but everyone has already rejected even the idea that a position is possible. I think everyone should consider that line of thought, and why this conversation is flawed to begin with. I cannot even suggest that there are objections, not that the objections themselves are valid, something which I’ve never said and something which I never wanted to do defend.
I can present some objections if you like, but I’m not sure what good that will do. People will simply say “boo inequality” and we’re back to square one, and I never attempted to say that gay-marriage should be banned, or that I believe it should be banned, only that people have other reasons beyond "boo gay people". If you can't concede that, I'm not sure this is a worth while conversation.
I'm not trying to put you between a rock and a hard place, but that people have opinions and that actions have consequences we all know. This has no special consequence for only one side of the gay marriage debate.
I dont know if this is a response to my post? I will assume that it is
I explicitly stated that I didnt think that you were bigoted, or that necessarily your reasons for opposing change were bigoted.
Of course there are reasons other than "boo gays" for opposing it. Do these reasons stand up? Are they just cover for "boo gay" bigotry?
( for example, I would consider "the bible says homosexuality is immoral" as a reason for opposing gay marriage)
Are you saying that you think the change will be bad? If so, why cant you outline why you think it will be bad?
Why would they say "boo inequality" unless it is, indeed, inequality? I have never said there arent other reasons. Are you saying these reasons are unable to be defended against "boo inequality" accusations?
I explicitly stated that I didnt think that you were bigoted, or that necessarily your reasons for opposing change were bigoted.
Of course there are reasons other than "boo gays" for opposing it. Do these reasons stand up? Are they just cover for "boo gay" bigotry?
( for example, I would consider "the bible says homosexuality is immoral" as a reason for opposing gay marriage)
Are you saying that you think the change will be bad? If so, why cant you outline why you think it will be bad?
Why would they say "boo inequality" unless it is, indeed, inequality? I have never said there arent other reasons. Are you saying these reasons are unable to be defended against "boo inequality" accusations?
Well, originally sounded like all you we saying is that there are people who oppose gay marriage. This we already knew. You also say that allowing gay marriage will change culture, which is not very relevant as continuing to ban it will also change culture. You now say we should recognize the opinions of people who oppose gay marriage and why they think this. Well, don't you think those people should do the same towards those who do not agree with them?
I'm not trying to put you between a rock and a hard place, but that people have opinions and that actions have consequences we all know. This has no special consequence for only one side of the gay marriage debate.
I'm not trying to put you between a rock and a hard place, but that people have opinions and that actions have consequences we all know. This has no special consequence for only one side of the gay marriage debate.
My argument was originally aimed the Kermit, not the whole gay-marriage debate. He implied that the reason to oppose it are only those that affect one directly, that since it doesn't affect "me", that I shouldn't care. I only stated that there are many reasons to not support gay marriage that aren't selfish per se, and it's the mischaracterization of the opposition which I consider a strawman, that only bigots can possibly oppose gay marriage.
Oh really? Only read him a couple times and found him to be less well written, wrong on the issues, but just as preachy as his brother
I would hardly say this is ignored at all. For the pro marriage equality side the whole point is to change the culture so it isn't just marriages, but a much larger cultural acceptance. And on the anti marriage equality side, the idea that the gays are ruining our culture and destroying the whole institution of marriage and good christian society also is pretty common. They don't call it the "culture wars" for nothing - everyone agrees it is going to change the culture. It is just that some people think it will do so in a good way and others disagree.
He actually doesn't speak about it anymore, he doesn't consider it useful or important, and sees it as a part of something bigger. I agree he is preachy, and kind of crotchety, but I think he presents some good arguments. He's always been articulate from what I've read or heard, even though he presents a lot of things from the perspective of Britain, which I'm completely unfamiliar with.
My argument was originally aimed the Kermit, not the whole gay-marriage debate. He implied that the reason to oppose it are only those that affect one directly, that since it doesn't affect "me", that I shouldn't care. I only stated that there are many reasons to not support gay marriage that aren't selfish per se, and it's the mischaracterization of the opposition which I consider a strawman, that only bigots can possibly oppose gay marriage.
I don't know that you wish to argue that it represents a significant cultural change while also holding
"It is an extraordinarily small issue which affects an extraordinarily small number of people."
I tend to agree that gay marriage is in part, part of a new movement in society that focuses on a new direction. Gay marriage in itself is a minor issue that affects only a few people, but it's part of a greater trend, which is difficult to separate.
I don't think you need to be a bigot. I think you can believe that gay marriage will ultimately be worse for our society in general, but still understand and accept that people will inevitably choose to do that which favours them. You don't need to hate gay people to think that opening this door will have an impact which you believe to be negative. For instance, I personally think it's not beneficial given my own perspective of the world, but I'm not going to force anyone to do anything they don't want. People can do what they want behind closed doors, but the overall effect will eventually impact the following generations. This is just my perspective, I can accept that someone who is gay wishes to marry, and that's fine, have at it.
It's when you start describing what a worse society looks like that the bigotry is exposed. I'm not necessarily talking about you but all you are saying here is that it's not beneficial a number of ways without saying how. How is continuing to discriminate good for our society? In what way does the continued distinction between heterosexual and homosexual couples benefit our society? What does this worse society that permits same sex marriage look like?
It's when you start describing what a worse society looks like that the bigotry is exposed. I'm not necessarily talking about you but all you are saying here is that it's not beneficial a number of ways without saying how. How is continuing to discriminate good for our society? In what way does the continued distinction between heterosexual and homosexual couples benefit our society? What does this worse society that permits same sex marriage look like?
For me personally, I'm fine with gay people getting married, just like I'm fine with people not getting married at all, and having sexual relationships. I simply don't think it's the best way, it doesn't mean that I hate anyone, this is still the same mischaracterization I have been alluding to. If being intolerant means having an opinion on what is better, than everyone is equally intolerant, everyone, after all, is describing what a better society looks like.
Indirectly probably. If them holding that position results in them advocating discriminatory treatment towards homosexuals then yes.
This does not have to be about a wider discussion of liberal v conservative values. This can be about this one question, why is society worse off with same sex marriage?
I would also like the reasoning behind why society is worse off with same sex marriage?
Can you state what you mean by "bigot"? Unfortunately, that word (to some people) has simply become a negative label (it's bad to be a "bigot") without being clear about what that label represents. Some people mean it to be that bigot is one who *behaves* in a certain way while others hold that bigotry is about what one *believes* about someone else. Some dictionaries describe it as an intolerance of other beliefs, whereas other dictionaries include a sense of superiority.
Every side you take on an issue involves discriminating against something or someone, but it doesn't mean you are intolerant of them, necessarily. If I am against legalizing marijuana, does it mean I am a bigot against weed smokers? If I am against abortion, does it means I discriminate against women? If I am against welfare, does it mean I hate the lower class? It could mean that, but it needn't. These things open the door to greater consequences (in some people's opinion) and are not solely rooted in the immediate results of not allowing someone to do something because you don't like them.
Precisely what makes gay marriage anti Christian? Just because something is not in agreement with Christianity does not make it anti Christian.
Even if it was anti Christian why should that be reason to stop it? Why should Christianity be given a special place of being protected from everything it doesn't like while everyone else lives by Christian rules they don't like?
I didn't realise gays marrying needed to affect Christians beliefs in any way, Do Christians suddenly have to marry people of the same sex too now? are you no longer allowed to be in a heterosexual marriage?
Other people having equal rights is not anti Christian, its fair. Just because Christians believe something does not mean the rest of us should have to be forced to live our lives in accordance with those beliefs.
If two gay people marry what actual effect does this have on you precisely?
Even if it was anti Christian why should that be reason to stop it? Why should Christianity be given a special place of being protected from everything it doesn't like while everyone else lives by Christian rules they don't like?
I didn't realise gays marrying needed to affect Christians beliefs in any way, Do Christians suddenly have to marry people of the same sex too now? are you no longer allowed to be in a heterosexual marriage?
Other people having equal rights is not anti Christian, its fair. Just because Christians believe something does not mean the rest of us should have to be forced to live our lives in accordance with those beliefs.
If two gay people marry what actual effect does this have on you precisely?
If I were to say that to you, you would be offended even.
But somehow that is the simpleminded response that conservatives/christians have to deal with concerning this issue.
I suppose if you don't have children, this general lack of awareness can be excused. But I really don't like to excuse it. Even before I had children I made a conscious decision to never drink and drive, for example.
And the truth is- if I never had children, I probably wouldn't care as much. But when childless young adults (who are mostly liberal) are in league with discontented atheists and such, and these are the opposition- any sane, rational, half-normal person has cause to be concerned for the future.
Basically, I find it suspicious when someone makes this argument, and they say: but how does it affect you?
They can somehow place themselves behind the eyes of a homosexual man or woman, but cannot do the same for a christian parent, in a christian country, and probably having grown up within a christian family!! That is highly alarming.
There are reasons, what I wanted to avoid is making this a debate specifically about the reasons. It should be enough that there are reasons, and they will be subjective, so they are in essence, irrelevant.
Every side you take on an issue involves discriminating against something or someone, but it doesn't mean you are intolerant of them, necessarily. If I am against legalizing marijuana, does it mean I am a bigot against weed smokers? If I am against abortion, does it means I discriminate against women? If I am against welfare, does it mean I hate the lower class? It could mean that, but it needn't. These things open the door to greater consequences (in some people's opinion) and are not solely rooted in the immediate results of not allowing someone to do something because you don't like them.
Every side you take on an issue involves discriminating against something or someone, but it doesn't mean you are intolerant of them, necessarily. If I am against legalizing marijuana, does it mean I am a bigot against weed smokers? If I am against abortion, does it means I discriminate against women? If I am against welfare, does it mean I hate the lower class? It could mean that, but it needn't. These things open the door to greater consequences (in some people's opinion) and are not solely rooted in the immediate results of not allowing someone to do something because you don't like them.
I understand you not wanting to make it about the reasons but unless you interrogate those reasons you may fail to see where the bigotry lies. You don't need to describe the reasons it's worse just explain what worse looks like.
I suspect where you are coming from is a perspective that it is somehow wrong to be gay, or it would be better if no one was. I understand if that's a part of your worldview and I apologise if it isn't. However despite this you are reluctant to defend actually discriminating against gay people as per your comments above
For me personally, I'm fine with gay people getting married, just like I'm fine with people not getting married at all, and having sexual relationships. I simply don't think it's the best way
Had no idea we were granting personhood status based on sexual behavior, either.
Can you state what you mean by "bigot"? Unfortunately, that word (to some people) has simply become a negative label (it's bad to be a "bigot") without being clear about what that label represents. Some people mean it to be that bigot is one who *behaves* in a certain way while others hold that bigotry is about what one *believes* about someone else. Some dictionaries describe it as an intolerance of other beliefs, whereas other dictionaries include a sense of superiority.
Bigotry is the state of mind of a bigot: someone who, as a result of their prejudices, treats or views other people with fear, distrust or hatred on the basis of a person's ethnicity, evaluative orientation, race, religion, national origin, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, disability, socioeconomic status, or other characteristics.
There are reasons, what I wanted to avoid is making this a debate specifically about the reasons. It should be enough that there are reasons, and they will be subjective, so they are in essence, irrelevant.
Every side you take on an issue involves discriminating against something or someone, but it doesn't mean you are intolerant of them, necessarily. If I am against legalizing marijuana, does it mean I am a bigot against weed smokers? If I am against abortion, does it means I discriminate against women? If I am against welfare, does it mean I hate the lower class? It could mean that, but it needn't. These things open the door to greater consequences (in some people's opinion) and are not solely rooted in the immediate results of not allowing someone to do something because you don't like them.
Every side you take on an issue involves discriminating against something or someone, but it doesn't mean you are intolerant of them, necessarily. If I am against legalizing marijuana, does it mean I am a bigot against weed smokers? If I am against abortion, does it means I discriminate against women? If I am against welfare, does it mean I hate the lower class? It could mean that, but it needn't. These things open the door to greater consequences (in some people's opinion) and are not solely rooted in the immediate results of not allowing someone to do something because you don't like them.
So, why will society be worse of with gay marriage?
Firstly I think your posing of the bolded is flawed, you are treating discriminating against a persons opinion and discriminating against a person equivalent and they aren't. It's also okay to be intolerant of certain views all intolerances are not equal. Would it be wrong to be intolerant of the slaveowners opinion in favour of the slaves.
I understand you not wanting to make it about the reasons but unless you interrogate those reasons you may fail to see where the bigotry lies. You don't need to describe the reasons it's worse just explain what worse looks like.
I suspect where you are coming from is a perspective that it is somehow wrong to be gay, or it would be better if no one was. I understand if that's a part of your worldview and I apologise if it isn't. However despite this you are reluctant to defend actually discriminating against gay people as per your comments above
I'm alright with this, and to answer Aaron's question above this may be a case where believing homosexuality immoral does not result in bigotry.
I understand you not wanting to make it about the reasons but unless you interrogate those reasons you may fail to see where the bigotry lies. You don't need to describe the reasons it's worse just explain what worse looks like.
I suspect where you are coming from is a perspective that it is somehow wrong to be gay, or it would be better if no one was. I understand if that's a part of your worldview and I apologise if it isn't. However despite this you are reluctant to defend actually discriminating against gay people as per your comments above
I'm alright with this, and to answer Aaron's question above this may be a case where believing homosexuality immoral does not result in bigotry.
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