I agree with you, that ultimately, it is better for all of us if we love ourselves and eachother and we put ourselves out to help our fellow man, even at our own expense. we share with one another, we view other ppl as our kin to the extent that we are all in this mess called life together and on the same lump of cosmic rock, we promote good strong positive ideals, we try to raise our kids with as much positive influence in their lives as possible, we forgive people their sins and hope that others will give us a chance to do the same when we f**k things up etc.
All of that stuff is more important than what, if any, spiritual beliefs a person has. The treee shall be judged by its fruit and all that.
That said, if spiritual experience and beliefs are important to you then you should pursue it.
I have had astonishing spiritual experiences, some in the cold light of day right before my very eyes, that I count as the most profound and special things I have been privy to.
My advice would be to seek out the people through history who were capable of teaching man higher truths, and just assimilate their teachings into your being. Christ and Buddha are two of my favourite, but there have been so many more who have influenced me or taught me that I have lost count. I love these teachings because as I read them I found myself experiencing a profound internal reaction, as if some deep part of me recognised what I was reading, and inspired me. I didn't just choose lightly to subscribe to some pre-existing cult. Spirituality is always a deeply personal thing, and it should be with you too.
You will find that the essence of your being changes over time, and you will realise slowly but surely that a very real process is occuring, inside you, invisible and immeasurable by instruments though it may be. It will be the most valuable thing in your life, and even though you go through times where you prioritise other stuff, because you are a human being with desires and fears, you will always come back to it, either by choice or because it has dragged you kicking and screaming, and you will be glad you did.
I can't really say a whole lot more, you must experience your own personal gnosis in order to know for yourself about the things I write, until then, they are just words on a page.
Christ and Buddha are great starting points, the buddha saw past this reality into a higher nirvana, and was able to penetrate to the deepest levels of truth concerning existence as a human experience. A lot of buddhist stuff is a complete headf**k but some of it is easier to run with, it also requires meditation and contemplation on your part in order to get anywhere with it. FWIW, I believe I experienced nirvana one evening I had taken myself for a walk in the countryside and ended up in the middle of a field with a wild barn owl flying around me so close I could reach out and touch it, completely oblivious or at least unaffected by my presence. I blogged it
here
Christ also had a profound insight into the human condition that a lot of people don't give him credit for, preferring instead to focus all their energies on the argument of whether he was or was not a living god. Whatever he was, he spoke a lot of heavyweight spiritual truth, some of it much easier to get to grips with than others, but all accessible to anyone who reads and sincerely wishes to connect with what is being taught. Because "to he who asks, so shall it be given".
Also, it sounds way hilarious, but pop on a DVD of The Empire Strikes Back and just open your mind to the divinely inspired wisdom of master yoda. The guy was a genius. There's a strong spiritual theme running through all 3 of the original star wars movies, and there's even one or two places where blatant esoteric symbolism made it into the final cut. Sounds like a joke right? Not so. The jedi force is a brilliant amalgamation of different mystical beliefs and a lot of what yoda comes out with is just plain, pure, beautful and undeniable truth that relates directly to man on the archetypal spiritual path, as symbolised in the movies by Luke.
"Strong is that place with the dark side of the force. Go in you must."
"What's in there?"
"Only what you take with you..."
That's some deep s**t right there.
I've got into some quite fringe stuff in my time as well, because I believe there are granules or even big lumps of truth to be found in some very strange places. My next book will be
this the field of shamanism and spiritual experiences being induced by psychadelics is a very interesting one, and apparently this guy is pretty hardcore in his revelations. I look forward to seeing what he comes up with.
I've rambled on for way too long. There's a bunch of stuff out there to pursue, and all of it should be run past your internal "truth-processor", questioned and grappled with, of course. Taking a long walk in the countryside just mulling things over in your head is a good way to let the deeper parts of your being accept what is real and reject what is fantasy.
Ultimately, a spiritual person grows to think and feel with a different part of their mind, a part that I believe is spiritual in nature and is there for anyone to connect with, but that remains dormant in those who never do.
You'll know when you find it :-)