Well, if a Christian woman were to marry a non-Christian man her children would be fathered by someone who doesn't believe. That Christian woman could also become complacent in her own beliefs due to the marriage. The father would naturally have a great deal of authority in the family and his not believing could move the woman's children further away from Christ. Furthermore, I think the woman would feel responsibility to evangelize to her husband out of fear for his salvation.

Depends on the beliefs really. In my country this "mix" is very common, but then largely in people who might believe or not believe in God, but who either a) doesn't really put much more into it than that b) keeps their religion very private. If the religious / non-religious identity is a large portion of what you see yourself as, this is of course far more rare.

It can also have rather amusing consequences. Like for example the time my atheist friend was peeved at me for refusing to be the godfather of his children that his religious fiance wanted baptized (part of the godfather wow was to promise to raise the children to Christian faith, which obviously would require me to lie) but the fiance supported me for sticking to my beliefs.

Of course.

Did you have a problem with lying about that in Church?

Myself and my wife are godparents to our nephew, and I said I was happy to do it as long as they were ok with the fact that I'm an atheist and I have no intention help raise him in the Christian faith. The parents aren't religious really (more just conformist) and didn't have a problem with that and felt there weren't really any more appropriate godparents - if anything happens to them it will be us that raises him.

Well, I never make promises I don't intend to keep and I really, really dislike lying. It actually makes me, quite literally, somewhat physically ill.

I'm not saying I think atheists who would have taken the other route are bad or worse people - I get the "we will be good role models for this child", but this is just who I am and something I feel is very important in my own behavior.

That's interesting - was just asking as I'd had a similar situation, and it never really occurred to me that it was lying - I was honest with the parents and family and didn't know anyone else there. I'd consider myself an honest person, but maybe I don't have an issue with lying to people (especially those I don't know and won't see again), guess I've never really thought about it a great deal.

What country are you from? I think these situations are way more common in Europe than the US, religion really doesn't seem to come up much in the UK.

OP was made 7 years ago, just FYI.

I'm from Norway. Religion doesn't come up much here either, it's mostly a private affair. I don't know the beliefs of most of my acquaintances.

Just flow with it.

most of my couples have been kind of ok with it, havent met a full christian girls and to be honest im not interested in it either.

My girlfriend also broke up with me in large part because I don't believe in her brand of feel good Christianity. Her church had the most ridiculous pastor I'd ever seen, was totally uneducated on the scriptures, was basically a walking cartoon trying to seem "cool" to lure in young folks. The sad thing is I've read the bible and she hadn't

if you did end up marrying her, there is a chance the kids might become atheist and go to hell.

i'm kidding btw, hahahah.

For OP. She was delusional, hope you get over it soon.



oops.... But I still hope he's over their break up.