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Originally Posted by Kristy
I like a "Primary parent or not" line best. It isn't as though mortgage/rent, the cost of heating or cooling, insurance, full time daycare spot, etc. goes down because the child is eating ....$10 worth of food... at the other parents house an extra day/week.
The cost of child's physical attendance at one home is probably one of the least expensive things on the list...especially if primary parent is packing a bag for them.
I feel like you have one specific image of how every relationship is & use this one archetype to inform your opinions on all of these matters...
If someone has kids 2 days a week they need to make sure they have housing that includes a bedroom for that kid, they need toys, furniture, amenities, food, etc. If someone has 0 custody, then they don't need any of that stuff, but they would pay the exact same amount, when really they should be paying more because they are pulling none of the weight & bearing none of the financial burden of taking care of a child.
Insurance is almost always split 50/50 (one party insures the child, the other one pays for half the premium, this is offset against the child support either up or down), & the heating, cooling, mortgage/rent things are borne by both sides when each parent is involved in the kid's life. Whether a parent has a kid 40% of the time or 35% of the time, virtually none of that changes, but the amount of child support changes a ton.
Different judges do different things with daycare in terms of who pays for what, but that's an issue that goes away fairly young in life relative to the 18 to 19 years child support can last.
Let's take the super rich primary parent example.
Parent A makes $10m per year & has the kid 5 days per week.
Parent B makes $50k per year & has the kid 2 days per week.
In Nevada, Parent B would pay Parent A $681 per month (18% per month, but capped based on earnings range), when Parent A has literally no need for the money, & the amount of money Parent B can afford to spend on the kid & provide a great living environment for that child just got significantly cut.
If Parent B gets that extra day & has the kid 3 days per week (the actual change can be far smaller...from like 2.5 days to 2.8 days), then Parent B would receive $1,091 per month (the difference between monthly incomes, times 18% & capped per child...the caps in Nevada are kind of interesting, but a whole nother topic).
Nothing practically would change with anything...either way both parents have joint legal custody & power to make decisions, but the extra few hours makes a huge economic change, which is why so many people fight on the margins.
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Originally Posted by Kristy
3. Maybe I'm crazy, but... "The kid is sick", "the house is on fire", "there's a bear/wolf/coyote in the yard" all feel like valid reasons too.
House is on fire is the only one I'd consider waking my wife up at 4:30 for.